How can knowing about NDEs help me in my grief process?

Insight gained from learning about an NDE has impacted the grief process for some people who have noted that:

• NDErs reveal that the moment of death was not painful.  Many people who have had a close brush with physical death (clinical death no breathing and/or heartbeat) assumed that they would suffocate or feel intense pain at the time of death.  Surprisingly, they report that there was no physical distress of any kind.  Instead, they had a floating, peaceful, euphoric experience.
• Beyond the moment of death, many NDErs report entering a brilliant light that is actually an all-knowing, all loving being.  They describe entering that light as coming HOME implying that they experienced a sense of familiarity and total comfort.
• For the above two reasons (and others), most people who have had NDEs no longer fear death or, at least, have significantly reduced anxiety about death.  They say that, because of their NDEs, they now know what happens in death, and they have nothing to fear.
• NDErs often say they encountered deceased loved ones at one or more times during the experience.  They report that these reunions were joyous, and that the loved one was in a state of complete health and well being.
• NDErs sometimes have reported that during their NDE, they encountered deceased relatives whom they had never met.  Later, living family members may identify these relatives, and photos may confirm that identification.  These kinds of experiences are suggestive of immortality.
• Some NDErs report being sent back, some note they chose to come back, still others explain they were just suddenly back in the body.  This might imply to the bereaved that the person who did not come back found that it was their time to die.
• NDErs sometimes have reported that during their experience they saw children waiting to be born.  In some cases, they later recognized these children when they actually were born.  Such experiences can comfort the bereaved by affirming the continuity of life that includes the time before birth and the time after death.